Monday, December 17, 2012


Akhirnya, selesai sudah satu episod.

Cukup sampai disini sayang
Relakan perpisahan ini
Walau berat dihati dan berat perasaan
Tempuh dengan ketabahan

Bukan kita tak saling cinta
Bukan kita tak saling sayang
Bersenang dan berduka
Bertemu dan berpisah
Itu kehendakNya jua
Cukup sampai disini sayang

Telah ku tempuh jalan tengah
Begitulah akhirnya
Telah ku selami laut yang dalam
Begitulah akhirnya

Bukan kita tak saling cinta
Bukan kita tak saling sayang
Bersenang dan berduka
Bertemu dan berpisah
Itu kehendakNya jua
Cukup sampai disini sayang

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

When the Universe stood still

This is how it is when the universe stood still..... In the absence of noise, the other beings flourish in silence.  Celebrating calmness.

Beauty in stillness.

~~ enta omri is in stillness...

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Be a Bear in Winter.

When all else fails, give up and go to the cave!  

When the dark clouds persistently  hover upon you and your spouse, go hibernate in a nice cosy cave somewhere. A good long sleep is best medicine in times of trouble.  Then, wake up one day, resolve the issue, once and for all.  No point looking at the past.  The future is the focus.  Life is too short.  Why spend the precious time on something that only brings sorrow and despair.

Making the choice and making the decision is part of  being a decent human being.  Make the choice.  Make the decision. 

In the mean time, hibernate!

Friday, November 9, 2012

You talk first or I start first?

What's with communication anyway? A tool to ease the journey of building this worldly life with a stranger who has become someone familiar.  That's the essential meaning of communication, to my mind.

It's easier said than done, though. Talking to a person is not easy. It is a process of forming words which originate in the mind where from instruction of which would come through the brain and guided by feelings or the emotional department and finally, words are uttered by the mouth with making certain form of sounds.  It also requires some courage from the person.  Must let go of that ego things from becoming the wall of obstruction, alright.  Then, you must also have the ability to asses or regard the environment such as the time, the day including the weather and not to forget the venue or the place to have such communication session with your other half.  You know, you must have a high degree of sense of awareness ( or the politically correct word would be "sensitiveness"), so as to obtain the most perfect result as your heart desires.  Failure on your part to consider all these necessary guidelines would deem your objective a total disaster.  So, now you see how paramount it is to be a skilled master of communicator?  Many marriages fail due to low level of communication skills possessed by the couple.  You see, you must not take marriage life and your spouse for granted.  First it becomes a habit.  A habit will turn into  character.   A character will develop into personality.   Can you visualize the chain of privity, chain of causation here? 

Who shall talk first?    You or the other half? I suggest the husband must start the conversation first.  Because, a woman likes it a lot if her husband show interest in her affairs in the household as the queen in your castle.  You get what I mean here?  Women generally are still very traditional in their way of thinking.  They like to have their husbands to be in charge.  What that mean here is simply for you to take the leadNot to control or patronize.  And one more thing, you don't have to pretend to be a sweet talker.  Do not fake, menfolks.  Do not be pretentious.  Do not be a lame person.  Do not imitate others.  Just be honest.  Be true. Original. Alright.  Surely you are capable of being such a gentlemanThe effort shown by you here, indicate how true your love is toward your wife.   Unless, there is no longer love and thoughts between both of you anymore, you can just abandon such effort.  Why waste energy and time when both parties are unable to see eye to eye about themselves and everything surrounding their lifeAfter all, nothing in this life is permanent, right.  Even seasons change.  

Building is indeed a hard work.  That's why whats worth building must be worth keeping and protected.   Build love and make love, people.  Forget about making war, it is such a wasted participation to get oneself into.  All the best! 

Oh, to help you master the skill, this song may be useful.  Enjoy..

I know, I know.... it's  Malay pantun...absolutely helpful.  Trust me.


Wednesday, November 7, 2012


It's November already.... fast time flies. You know what people, with the  Hurricane Sandy gone and slowly forgotten it's time to renew, rejuvenate , relive and reboot your personal department.  Let's start with listening to  a good nice lovely song. I will start with this song.  The words bring me this nostalgic  kind of feeling, and it's so meaningful while bringing back  plentiful of wonderful memories  to me.

Here is the song:-

Enjoy, people....

Monday, October 22, 2012


Hi Folks.  I wish you all clear blue skies and sunshine from morning till dusk.  

You know, life is a mystery.  This is trite fact already.  Because, everybody knows about this. I have been in a melancholic mood of some sort.  All because something cropped-up in my mind a short while ago.  It's this matter about soul mate.  Do you really fathom the phenomena of soulmate?  What is soulmate actually?  I am indeed absolutely curious about this phenomena.  So, I looked up the meaning of the word 'soulmate'.  And, I found,  as described in Urban Dictionary, that the meaning is:- 

 "A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet -- a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, strong and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior. Your soulmate understands and connects with you in every way and on every level, which brings a sense of peace, calmness and happiness when you are around them. And when you are not around them, you are all that much more aware of the harshness of life, and how bonding with another person in this way is the most significant and satisfying thing you will experience in your lifetime. You are also all that much aware of the beauty in life, because you have been given a great gift and will always be thankful."

I found that this explanation summed up the holistic meaning of soulmate.  It is also described as a relationship of true love.  What does true mean here?  True as I understand it to mean is 'the real thing on the face of it clearly shows what's inside of something'.  The synonym of which is real - genuine - faithful - right - actual - loyal.  So, it is in actual a real -genuine-faithful-right-actual-loyal love! I am so taken aback with the revelation of the meaning of soulmate.  Indeed I am.  I declare, to have a soulmate is a blessing.  It is a gift from God.  

But, to my mind, there is a setback.  If you care to do a bit of reading about true love stories or watch some movies related to this phenomenon you can find that the soulmates will never stay together in a certain solid engagement.  They will be separated in the end.  It will never end in a happily ever after situation.  Soulmates will meet or stumble upon each other.  Get to know each other.  Discovered instantly that they attract each others’ attentions and get attracted completely solidly forgetting the rest of the world around them lost in the maze and labyrinth of true love bonding only to be separated from each other by a cruel incident [this is what happened most of the time] which halted the relationship and in the end they will be separated from each other as far away from each other as one can imagine like the separation between the sky and the earth.

Do you know that when they said soulmates are blessed; they are indeed blessed.  Because, this is a special gift to special people.  It cannot be chased.  It can only be found when the time and place are destined for that special people. 

How it ended? Through death. Through unforeseen circumstance. The result of separation is always sorrowfulness. Grieving yet unable to forget.
A blessing yet a curse too. 

Sunday, October 21, 2012

Berbicara Bahasa Cinta

Berbicara bahasa Cinta are Malay words.  The translation of which, Speaking the Language of Love. The language of love can be demonstrated through various ways medium and forms.  Expressly or Impliedly.  Verbally or Silently. Or in any other ways that you think fit.  Apparently, this is one act that is based on one's discretion. I am speaking it this way:-

Where the words able to fly you away to the land of blissful paradise.  Great is the way when we speak the language of love. Berbicara bahasa cinta...

Lesson Number One

I want to talk about 'learning to understand "who-your-wife" is as a person.'

    Know that she is a  daughter and sister and niece and granddaughter of someone else.  Never forget this fact.

    Know that she has different build from you.  Totally different, okay.  Check out the anatomy text book, in case you are not sure about it.  I am talking about her feminine body structure i.e. from the DNA structure to the size of her bones, her monthly cycle included.

    Know that her bodily structure influenced her emotional structure.

    Know that her mood swing is greatly influenced by her bodily changes too.

    Know that she has acute intuition and can tell what is happening even if you did not tell her.  Most of the time, that is.

    Know that there was a reason perhaps many reasons why she chose you to be her spouse.  Get to know what was or were the reasons.  'Post-it'  it in your head.  Don't loose that particular information, if you are seriously serious about your relationship with her.

    Know that you must never ever attempt to build a habit of 'lying'.  If you do, you are digging your own grave.  Good luck.

    Know that a marital relationship is a serious business.  As such, handle serious matter seriously.  If you love, love seriously.  Meaning, Love honestly, with good faith and with good intention.  You do not want to be a hypocrite, do you?

    Know yourself.  In knowing her, you know yourself.  Knowing who you are is learning to know her.  

By taking the initiatives above, you are constantly awarding yourself with a  peaceful prosperous and wonderful life.  Because, you are the one, in the first place, who decides that you want to end your single life.  So, make the effort.  Be accounted for.  

Well people, I have no formal education in psychology or counselling or anything similar to that   All these information were experiences gathered over the years while interacting and participating with other human kinds who crossed my path.  So, they were valid points, I supposed. 

All the best!  Continue building and constructing and loving, people.

Saturday, October 20, 2012

A Love Sketsa

Let's celebrate together-ness and intimate-ness for the sake of Love! With this fantastic song to be sang along together.  I absolutely love this song and it makes me sing with all my heart every time I hear it.  This song is a slow rock genre.  Such a fabulous song.  C'mon people, let's celebrate!

The Lyrics:

Oh kekasih hatiku selamanya
Keindahan maya itu milik kita
Terciptalah sebuah cinta
Jiwa sama bergelora

Kau lah satu dalam hidupku ini
Penawar dikala rindu
Kan kucurahkan sepenuh cintaku
padamu oh kasihku...

Akanku bina istana untuk kita
dan menikmati gelombang cinta
Didadaku dan didadamu
Tergumpal seiring irama

Ayuh ku pimpinkan tanganmu
Menuju mahligai bahgia
Kitak bersama emngecap nikmat cinta
Hidup bagai disyurga...

The video:

Friday, October 19, 2012

Beautiful Words, Beautiful Heart and Mind

Greetings People!

I have a piece of advice to those pairs of couple who are still living in a marital bonding, please mind your words to your spouse.  I want to particularly advice the husband folks.  Be kind to your wife, will you.  Ill words hurt.  Hurt the heart and the mind.  Ill words will decay the love thermometer of your wife. Ill words uttered in the midst of a quarrel will germinate ill faith in your wife's heart and mind. To be exact, bad words coming from a bad mouth are elements for the germination of a disastrous husband-wife relationship! Do you understand what I am saying here, husband folks?  Oh yes, this article is specifically addressed to the married male kinds.  Why? Because you, married men folks,  love to abuse your wife verbally whenever the situation suits you.  Of course I am talking about facts.  And facts do not lie. I will not go into the details but, please bear in mind, ill words are tantamount to mental abuse.  And mental abuse is one legal reason to file a divorce.  Why spend all good energy to destroy something you have built? Yes? Besides, ill words are like killing-it-softly that affection your wife has over you.  Why kill, men folks?  Why built then kill.  Why built then destroy?  

Embrace kindness and gentleness.  Guide not patronize.

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Kasih = Love

I was wandering in the 'net jungle earlier and discovered this wonderful song.  Somehow, I felt that this number is dedicated to me.  I, particularly, loved this line :

"When you touch someone with your spirit, and in turn they touch your soul with their heart."

It was a long long time ago since one's heart was touched, so dearly.  How true these words are, "Once in a while, right in the middle of an ordinary life, Love gives us a fairy tale."  Indeed, life is all about the affairs of the heart.  The realm of life is the memories of feelings.  Impossible to erase.

Whoever you are, it really pleases me to have this song for myself, this rainy night.
Mucho mucho gracias, mi amigo!

Sunday, October 14, 2012

The Banang Mountain

Selat Melaka lautnya tenang
Disitulah banyak berlabuh perahu Bugis
Orang yang jauh jangan dikenang
Kalau dikenang menangis tentu menangis.

Asalnya kapas menjadi benang
Benang ditenun hai kain menjadi kain
Orang dilepas jangan dikenang
Sudah menjadi hai lain si-orang lain...

Saturday, October 13, 2012

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

I feel you, still.

you  asked me, the meaning of this life.
i said, to learn to know the self and the being.
you said, fate is the one who brought you to me.
i asked,  is fate policy better late than never?

i asked you, why are you hanging around me?
you replied, "because i want to know what love is".
i asked again, why do you need to know what love is?
you said, "because i don't want to grow old and wondering about it".
i asked, and what does that got to do with me?
you said, "because you are love and love has found me".

i found you.
you found me.
now, i lost you.

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Universal Word

Isn't love such a mystical wonder of life in the universe? I mean, every living body with brain react to the meaning of this fantastic description of feelings.  Every object and subject give some sort of response to this word.  How can such small number of letters give such enormous impact on all living things in this place we called home.  "Love of earthlings" - nice caption I figure.  Oh, by the way, "earthlings" also include non human subjects, yes.  Please do not limit-ize  your 'world' view.

Let's examine the wonderful interaction of the bee family with the rest of the living things on earth, for instance.  Do you know that the bee family consists of  the father bee also known as the drones ( nice...), the mummy bee and the hardworking younguns plus there is the Queen bee, the center figure in  family bee. Do you notice the bee family home is a large structure of complex alleys and cubicles?  It also functions as a thermometer to keep the family members warm and cosy from the uncertain weather.   And some experts said that the center of earth is like honey made by the bee family!  Isn't that a fabulous wonder!  We humans, living on top of honey every seconds. Do you realize that without the bee family the world will be left unattended due to failure in the nature system and soon after all of us will perish? No? Not ever realize that such huge impact will affect us? Well, you see, without the loving, loyal and hardworking bee family the world and its content will collapse.  We will no longer able to taste that golden shiny sweet and full of energy driven sweetener forever never will we have that priceless liquid again.  There will be no more flowers, gone will the roses, the bunga raya, the bougainvilleas, the jasmines, the durian flowers ( oh no!).  There will be no more oranges, pomegranates,  that delicious grapes, no more apples, strawberries and all the berry families and don't forget that sweet smelling mangoes and its beautiful flowers.  No rambutans, mangoesteens, and that wonderful jambu batu or guava.  How about grains like rice, oats, wheats and corns. All will be gone. Will there be anymore four seasons? What will be the fate of those lands in the tropics? Oh what will become of us if there is no bee around? What will be the fate of those other living animals on land, air and sea?  Terrible indeed the outcome, people.  

Thus, shall we conclude to say that honey bees and its family members are our most intimate nexus with the rest of the living things that exist in this world.  Bees bring with it that wonderful universal word - LOVE.  What is this world without the love of the honey bees.  

"the papa bee aka the drone at lunch time during summer in France."

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Wishing You Selamat Hari Raya Aidil Fitri, Maaf Zahir Batin.

Dear friends far and near,

my Hari Raya song for you alls..

" kini saat yang terakhir
ku pinta maaf kepada mu
jauh dari lubuk hatiku
tak pernah ku dendam pada mu

bila engkau tak percaya 
ku rela korban jiwa raga
kini saat yang penghabisan
ku harap kau datang kepada ku

berulang kali ku nyatakan
aku sayang pada mu
berulang kali ku meminta
peluklah belai lah daku

oh itu tak pernah terjadi
semua harapan belaka
nafasku yang terakhir ini
hanyalah kutujukan pada mu..."

-- tarikan nafasku yang terakhir
-- tetty kadi

"bird's eye view of langkawi marina bay."

Monday, June 11, 2012


"A precious one
The face I see every day every night
The thoughts of mine are with the precious one
I will keep thou, the precious one
In my secret box
The secret box I placed in a secret part
Of my heart
I locked the secret box
And threw the key away
That's how much I love thee, love of my life
Forever in my heart."

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

The Crying Rock

That rock
sitting near the hills
hugging the betel-nut trees and the ferns
smiling as the sun's ray showers over him

That hills
looking down the valley
waterfalls running smoothly into the rock pool
the water ripples and sways with the wind

That rock
beside him the spring water appears
spring water and rock
become friends
best friends
wonderful friends
learned to love
side by side
every day
every night
every moon
every sun
every rain

one day
the rock wonders
why suddenly the  spring water no more there
so dry
so quiet
no more songs of water flowing
no more life..

Is it summer?
a drought comes a visiting?
but isn't it winter still?
even if it is summer time, spring water never leave..
why you leave me..
what did i do wrong?
did i say something wrong?
where have yesterdays gone..

That rock

Still the spring water keeps her silent
without leaving foot prints.

Saturday, February 11, 2012

My Constellations

"You  are the brightest of stars, you are the highest of all...You came into my life, like the eagle's soaring from the wide open sky."

There will be a time when you will be sitting alone in your garden sipping ice coffee and smelling the hot air in the late afternoon looking around you admiring the leaves moving with the wind and there under the jasmine pot your small kittens nursing with their mommy then you look upon the blue sky beyond and you said to yourself, "God I am not lonely anymore.  I found the apex of love with your Grace o God and I am grateful for these pleasures You granted me."  And you realized that this new found inner revelation,  these feelings become possible to exist all because you have found the love of your life one that you have been looking and waiting for all your life and you know that he knows that you love him and he knows that you know that he loves you. With this solid feeling inside you, you know that you can face the world with all its madness and ridiculousness.  You can handle all those stupidity human kind can put forth.  You will stand tall against all oddity and impossibility that the common beings not able to face.  You will see the beauty in all facets of creations and forms.  You can stop and ponder amidst the commotion at the public place.  You may even lose some of the wrinkles on your face.  Your eyes shine and twinkles.  Your cheeks become rosy and your walks become livelier. How fulfilling is your life when such is your achievement.  Even when the subject of your heart is never nearby.  Blessed is the one who have reached the constellation.  The apex of love. 

Life is all about having to live it to the best of your ability with the help of peace in mind and soul which can be derived from having a balance lifestyle of the inner self , the physical outer beings with anyone third party who can be people outside your loop.  How big is your loop is up to you to make the choice.  To have a successful relationship is to have first and foremost a peace of mind. The very nature of a human being is to love, be loved and stay in love.  This is the basic requirement.  It is the nucleus.  All other matters in a relationship circles around the feelings and realization of knowing love, expressing it and living with it.  It gives the peace of mind.  A peaceful mind is nutrient to a healthy body and emotion. It brings dynamic to the self. Love is the essence in life but to found the apex of love is the greatest success ever.  As Rumi has expressed in his beautiful poem,  This is Love.

This is love: to fly toward a secret sky, 
to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment.
First, to let go of live.
In the end, to take a step without feet;
to regard this world as invisible,
and to disregard what appears to be the self.

Heart, I said, what a gift it has been
to enter this circle of lovers,
to see beyond seeing itself,
to reach and feel within the breast.

There it goes, people.  Reach for the constellation.  Create and build your circle of love. Construct until it becomes.

Friday, February 10, 2012

Words & Love.

"the time for putting the alphabets on the surface of the blank slab and the utterance of more words  for others to hear and understand has long past..
to find meaning in what one is doing is forever ongoing; the demands for more words of meaning are deafening at times."

I am uttering the feelings of being at lost with words when all that's needed to be said have all been said.  All the time that have been spent in the cave of 'getting-to-know-thee' 'knowing me-knowing you' have taken all the energy of one who has made it an objective as his or her effort to know 'love'.

In other words, I am saying that one will be at a lost of purpose if one continues to have a relationship purely and solely based on words spoken through machine transmission per se can be the most taxing process if such process runs for months and months without any certainty of ever meeting the subject of one's attention eye to eye!  It is a true test of perseverance and loyalty indeed.  Have any of you people expedience such a relationship?  Rarely, no?

Building is indeed an uphill task for many.  Identifying the type of building to build, the design, the landscape and the  materials to use are all mind boggling exercise.  But how can we avoid such complex process of the human uttermost important part of his her life? Avoid it as much as you want to but you can never be able to run away from it.  As, the essence of life is LOVE. No one can run away from love. Have you ever tried people?  Tell me if any of you have indeed done it.

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Destiny and Time...

I'm sharing with you people a love song, a sad love song about love not to become..

" Tidak ku tahu mengapakah sepinya melanda hatiku... dan bukannya kemahuanku, datangnya sendiri...Tidak kutahu mengapakah pilunya dipinggir hatiku, dan kucuba untuk mengusir tapi tak berdaya.

Lalu terbuka gerbang hatiku, menyambut rindu datang bertamu, aku gelisah.... kini rinduku menyebut cinta yang ditakdirkan dengan mu sayang..bukan pintaku atau mahumu....semuanya suratannya... tapi mengapakah kau sekadar waktu cinta yang datang cepat berlalu...pergimu sayang bersama cinta... tercalar pedih didalam dada...aku tersiksa.

Aku terdiam kaku menahan..bisanya menikam kalbuku separuh nyawa kupandang wajah didepan kaca...tutup kembali gerbang hatiku tidak bermaya langkah kaki ku disaat ini...

..tidak kusangka jadi begini terpisah jua kita akhirnya...aku sendiri tidak mengerti tidak mengerti ..sungguh pilu dihatiku untuk melepaskan mu demi kerana ku masih sayang sayang pada mu terbangkit resah didalam kalbu ... terhimpun rindu sayang tidak ku sangka terpisah jua kita berdua... aku sendiri tidak mengerti luka cinta ku..... "

It's a mystery love so deep...not to become...tragic.

I'll post the link some day....