Destiny

Hi there you people! Happy Ahad everyone!

I have been contemplating for days now on the most mystical and mysterious event in a human life -- destiny.  The journey towards the destiny is long.  The road may be long and straight just like the freeway.  It can too be a long and winding road. It can also be a long straight road but with many exits and junctions. 

But what intrigued me is the in-betweens from point X to point Z.  The in-betweens that happens are the most profound of all. One can be completely engulfed with intense emotions while going through the journey towards destiny.  The wise man says that one's destiny is not for oneself to ascertain.  Is that so?  Are you sure of that? I say, one may not know the ultimate result of one's destiny.  But, one can always shape and colour one's journey towards one's destiny.  I say, this whole happenings within the in-betweens, is the work of building the bridge to reach  one's destiny.  

Build the bridge first people. Get it completed at your targeted timeline.  Don't hesitate.  Don't linger.  Build it at an even pace. Build the bridge with all your might and love in your heart. Once the bridge is ready, you have reach it.  It is time for decision making.

I Am In Love With You

As I have said in my previous article people, June is a special month to me. In celebration of the month of June, here is the love poem exists in a beautiful song by Dan Fogelberg which is so painfully beautiful that has made me decided to share it with you all people. Light the eternal flame people.

" longer than there've been fishes in the ocean;
higher than any bird ever flew;
longer than there've been stars up in the heavens;
I've been in love with you.

stronger than any mountain cathedral;
truer than any tree ever grew;
deeper than any forest primeval;
I am in love with you.

I'll bring fires in the winters;
You'll send showers in the springs;
We'll fly through the falls and summers;
with love on our wings.

through the years as the fire starts to mellow;
burning lines in the book of our lives;
though the binding cracks and the pages start to yellow;
I'll be in love with you;
I'll be in love with you.

I am in love with you........ "

Yep, I have to let go, people. Can't stop the tears. There're so much love inside. Let love flow. Let love grow. Live life for the love as intended and destined.

The Paths

The thing about marriage is you don't know what's going to happen next even if you've tried your best to fix the schedule - your life-plan schedule. I am not only inclined but is forced to believe that tomorrow will never come when we deal with marriage. Yes, togetherness. But, yes too to individuality. Hence, I am forced too to ask "a very complex philsophical-psychological question on being there/here and spending time and on the inevitability of fate and of crossroads and turns of the road less taken." - to quote a philosopher's words.

The relevant situation for such question is when you are in the healing phase of your relationships with your spouse after the "crisis". There will be an empty space in the heart of the partner who has been hurt by the said "crisis". To amend and re-structure the empty space thereafter to fulfill it will take a lot of effort and energy plus time - by both parties. The greatest impact will be on the one who suffered the most by the "crisis" and she/he is the one will be with the biggest empty space. It is a fact that must not be ignored. It is like NOT seeing the 'pink elephant' in the living room. What I want to express herein people is, you cannot ignore the empty space in your heart and continue living your life as if nothing is changed. Face it. Accept the fact. The love that was once there has all gone!! Yes, you will say to yourself, working very hard convincing yourself that there is still love like before in your heart for him/her. But, people, it has all gone the day you make your war.!

The challenge in situation like this is, when your path crosses with another person that is just too good to be true like your hero in your dream with long hair and piercing eyes suddenly appears in your life and swept you away with the greatest of surprise that left you dizzy. How to deal with this situation people? Remember, the empty space? Within that empty space lies the quest for the golden trophy to fulfill the lost love that was once there. The missing element - LOVE.

I cannot express it in any better way but to quote this beautiful poem by an ancient Persian poet as narrated to me by a dear friend:.

"will you and i with Fate decree,
to change the scheme of things entire,
will you and i with Fate conspire,
to change the things we desire,
so that they will be close to our heart's desire. "

This is the challenge people. The fulfillment comes not from the other important someone in your marriage. It comes from the one that you have been searching all your life, but, only now appears.

I know. Its complicated.