Monday, October 22, 2012


Hi Folks.  I wish you all clear blue skies and sunshine from morning till dusk.  

You know, life is a mystery.  This is trite fact already.  Because, everybody knows about this. I have been in a melancholic mood of some sort.  All because something cropped-up in my mind a short while ago.  It's this matter about soul mate.  Do you really fathom the phenomena of soulmate?  What is soulmate actually?  I am indeed absolutely curious about this phenomena.  So, I looked up the meaning of the word 'soulmate'.  And, I found,  as described in Urban Dictionary, that the meaning is:- 

 "A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet -- a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, strong and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior. Your soulmate understands and connects with you in every way and on every level, which brings a sense of peace, calmness and happiness when you are around them. And when you are not around them, you are all that much more aware of the harshness of life, and how bonding with another person in this way is the most significant and satisfying thing you will experience in your lifetime. You are also all that much aware of the beauty in life, because you have been given a great gift and will always be thankful."

I found that this explanation summed up the holistic meaning of soulmate.  It is also described as a relationship of true love.  What does true mean here?  True as I understand it to mean is 'the real thing on the face of it clearly shows what's inside of something'.  The synonym of which is real - genuine - faithful - right - actual - loyal.  So, it is in actual a real -genuine-faithful-right-actual-loyal love! I am so taken aback with the revelation of the meaning of soulmate.  Indeed I am.  I declare, to have a soulmate is a blessing.  It is a gift from God.  

But, to my mind, there is a setback.  If you care to do a bit of reading about true love stories or watch some movies related to this phenomenon you can find that the soulmates will never stay together in a certain solid engagement.  They will be separated in the end.  It will never end in a happily ever after situation.  Soulmates will meet or stumble upon each other.  Get to know each other.  Discovered instantly that they attract each others’ attentions and get attracted completely solidly forgetting the rest of the world around them lost in the maze and labyrinth of true love bonding only to be separated from each other by a cruel incident [this is what happened most of the time] which halted the relationship and in the end they will be separated from each other as far away from each other as one can imagine like the separation between the sky and the earth.

Do you know that when they said soulmates are blessed; they are indeed blessed.  Because, this is a special gift to special people.  It cannot be chased.  It can only be found when the time and place are destined for that special people. 

How it ended? Through death. Through unforeseen circumstance. The result of separation is always sorrowfulness. Grieving yet unable to forget.
A blessing yet a curse too. 

Sunday, October 21, 2012

Berbicara Bahasa Cinta

Berbicara bahasa Cinta are Malay words.  The translation of which, Speaking the Language of Love. The language of love can be demonstrated through various ways medium and forms.  Expressly or Impliedly.  Verbally or Silently. Or in any other ways that you think fit.  Apparently, this is one act that is based on one's discretion. I am speaking it this way:-

Where the words able to fly you away to the land of blissful paradise.  Great is the way when we speak the language of love. Berbicara bahasa cinta...

Lesson Number One

I want to talk about 'learning to understand "who-your-wife" is as a person.'

    Know that she is a  daughter and sister and niece and granddaughter of someone else.  Never forget this fact.

    Know that she has different build from you.  Totally different, okay.  Check out the anatomy text book, in case you are not sure about it.  I am talking about her feminine body structure i.e. from the DNA structure to the size of her bones, her monthly cycle included.

    Know that her bodily structure influenced her emotional structure.

    Know that her mood swing is greatly influenced by her bodily changes too.

    Know that she has acute intuition and can tell what is happening even if you did not tell her.  Most of the time, that is.

    Know that there was a reason perhaps many reasons why she chose you to be her spouse.  Get to know what was or were the reasons.  'Post-it'  it in your head.  Don't loose that particular information, if you are seriously serious about your relationship with her.

    Know that you must never ever attempt to build a habit of 'lying'.  If you do, you are digging your own grave.  Good luck.

    Know that a marital relationship is a serious business.  As such, handle serious matter seriously.  If you love, love seriously.  Meaning, Love honestly, with good faith and with good intention.  You do not want to be a hypocrite, do you?

    Know yourself.  In knowing her, you know yourself.  Knowing who you are is learning to know her.  

By taking the initiatives above, you are constantly awarding yourself with a  peaceful prosperous and wonderful life.  Because, you are the one, in the first place, who decides that you want to end your single life.  So, make the effort.  Be accounted for.  

Well people, I have no formal education in psychology or counselling or anything similar to that   All these information were experiences gathered over the years while interacting and participating with other human kinds who crossed my path.  So, they were valid points, I supposed. 

All the best!  Continue building and constructing and loving, people.