When the Universe stood still

This is how it is when the universe stood still..... In the absence of noise, the other beings flourish in silence.  Celebrating calmness.

Beauty in stillness.

~~ enta omri is in stillness...

Be a Bear in Winter.

When all else fails, give up and go to the cave!  

When the dark clouds persistently  hover upon you and your spouse, go hibernate in a nice cosy cave somewhere. A good long sleep is best medicine in times of trouble.  Then, wake up one day, resolve the issue, once and for all.  No point looking at the past.  The future is the focus.  Life is too short.  Why spend the precious time on something that only brings sorrow and despair.

Making the choice and making the decision is part of  being a decent human being.  Make the choice.  Make the decision. 

In the mean time, hibernate!

You talk first or I start first?

What's with communication anyway? A tool to ease the journey of building this worldly life with a stranger who has become someone familiar.  That's the essential meaning of communication, to my mind.

It's easier said than done, though. Talking to a person is not easy. It is a process of forming words which originate in the mind where from instruction of which would come through the brain and guided by feelings or the emotional department and finally, words are uttered by the mouth with making certain form of sounds.  It also requires some courage from the person.  Must let go of that ego things from becoming the wall of obstruction, alright.  Then, you must also have the ability to asses or regard the environment such as the time, the day including the weather and not to forget the venue or the place to have such communication session with your other half.  You know, you must have a high degree of sense of awareness ( or the politically correct word would be "sensitiveness"), so as to obtain the most perfect result as your heart desires.  Failure on your part to consider all these necessary guidelines would deem your objective a total disaster.  So, now you see how paramount it is to be a skilled master of communicator?  Many marriages fail due to low level of communication skills possessed by the couple.  You see, you must not take marriage life and your spouse for granted.  First it becomes a habit.  A habit will turn into  character.   A character will develop into personality.   Can you visualize the chain of privity, chain of causation here? 

Who shall talk first?    You or the other half? I suggest the husband must start the conversation first.  Because, a woman likes it a lot if her husband show interest in her affairs in the household as the queen in your castle.  You get what I mean here?  Women generally are still very traditional in their way of thinking.  They like to have their husbands to be in charge.  What that mean here is simply for you to take the lead.  Not to control or patronize.  And one more thing, you don't have to pretend to be a sweet talker.  Do not fake, menfolks.  Do not be pretentious.  Do not be a lame person.  Do not imitate others.  Just be honest.  Be true. Original. Alright.  Surely you are capable of being such a gentleman.  The effort shown by you here, indicate how true your love is toward your wife.   Unless, there is no longer love and thoughts between both of you anymore, you can just abandon such effort.  Why waste energy and time when both parties are unable to see eye to eye about themselves and everything surrounding their life.  After all, nothing in this life is permanent, right.  Even seasons change.  

Building is indeed a hard work.  That's why whats worth building must be worth keeping and protected.   Build love and make love, people.  Forget about making war, it is such a wasted participation to get oneself into.  All the best! 

Oh, to help you master the skill, this song may be useful.  Enjoy..

I know, I know.... it's  Malay pantun...absolutely helpful.  Trust me.

 

Seriously....

It's November already.... sigh...how fast time flies. You know what people, with the  Hurricane Sandy gone and slowly forgotten it's time to renew, rejuvenate , relive and reboot your personal department.  Let's start with listening to  a good nice lovely song. I will start with this song.  The words bring me this nostalgic  kind of feeling, and it's so meaningful while bringing back  plentiful of wonderful memories  to me.

Here is the song:-

Enjoy, people....

SoulMate

Hi Folks.  I wish you all clear blue skies and sunshine from morning till dusk.  


You know, life is a mystery.  This is trite fact already.  Because, everybody knows about this. I have been in a melancholic mood of some sort.  All because something cropped-up in my mind a short while ago.  It's this matter about soul mate.  Do you really fathom the phenomena of soulmate?  What is soulmate actually?  I am indeed absolutely curious about this phenomena.  So, I looked up the meaning of the word 'soulmate'.  And, I found,  as described in Urban Dictionary, that the meaning is:- 

 "A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet -- a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, strong and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior. Your soulmate understands and connects with you in every way and on every level, which brings a sense of peace, calmness and happiness when you are around them. And when you are not around them, you are all that much more aware of the harshness of life, and how bonding with another person in this way is the most significant and satisfying thing you will experience in your lifetime. You are also all that much aware of the beauty in life, because you have been given a great gift and will always be thankful."

I found that this explanation summed up the holistic meaning of soulmate.  It is also described as a relationship of true love.  What does true mean here?  True as I understand it to mean is 'the real thing on the face of it clearly shows what's inside of something'.  The synonym of which is real - genuine - faithful - right - actual - loyal.  So, it is in actual a real -genuine-faithful-right-actual-loyal love! I am so taken aback with the revelation of the meaning of soulmate.  Indeed I am.  I declare, to have a soulmate is a blessing.  It is a gift from God.  

But, to my mind, there is a setback.  If you care to do a bit of reading about true love stories or watch some movies related to this phenomenon you can find that the soulmates will never stay together in a certain solid engagement.  They will be separated in the end.  It will never end in a happily ever after situation.  Soulmates will meet or stumble upon each other.  Get to know each other.  Discovered instantly that they attract each others’ attentions and get attracted completely solidly forgetting the rest of the world around them lost in the maze and labyrinth of true love bonding only to be separated from each other by a cruel incident [this is what happened most of the time] which halted the relationship and in the end they will be separated from each other as far away from each other as one can imagine like the separation between the sky and the earth.

Do you know that when they said soulmates are blessed; they are indeed blessed.  Because, this is a special gift to special people.  It cannot be chased.  It can only be found when the time and place are destined for that special people. 

How it ended? Through death. Through unforeseen circumstance. The result of separation is always sorrowfulness. Grieving yet unable to forget.
A blessing yet a curse too.