The Cave In The Forest

" By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher." - Socrates


And...., I have been greatly challenged today when a dear friend of mine narrated to me this story:
"many neanderthal men became extinct because neanderthal women forced them to hunt for food while the women write grocery list on cave walls. they were the earliest feminists and a danger to the male species. they started the idea of shopping lists and the men worked hard battling wild beasts. many neanderthal men were mauled to pieces only because they forgot something on the list and had to go out again when the dinosaurs were having dinner. Archaeologists discovered that on the wall of the Chauvet Cave in Southern France, there is a carving of what looked like a woman-Neanderthal shopper that looked like a wife of a prime minister of a banana republic somewhere in Asia. She was carrying 89 shopping bags."

What am I to make of this piece of mind challenging facts-fiction? Maybe my dear good friend has become a philosopher........

But, I have this nagging feeling in my head that keeps telling me that I have graduated with flying colors as the philosopher of marriage!! Me...??!!
Now, what do you think that indicate? I can't hide from Socrates.

Individuals in a union.

What is life?
One may wonder what is life all about. Is it about living in and with the other individuals in a union or is it about living in together-ness, disregard individualistic, and be lost in the jungle of union. Perhaps, one need to seek out one's individual-ness by going back to one's inner self, reflect and come to term with it. Is it about love? Is it about success in together-ness? How can one possibly weigh the importance of one's individualism in a union with the other individuals without affecting adversely the together-ness?

Aahhh..! life is indeed a complicated journey! But I learned from someone that a life not tested is not worth living.

How's the weather forecast on politics and marriage?

The weather has not been fine for many many weeks now. It has been a series of scorching  hot days lately and one dread about going out of one's cave anytime before 5pm. What is it about weather and politics and marriage?  I don't know.  Perhaps, its about how politics is everywhere in your life that exist in your domestic living habitation and exist too at your work place and within the community that you belong to.

Have you ever thought of politics in your marriage life.  Politics in  your relationship with your spouse.  Its about power struggle between the 'He' and the 'Her'.  Its about who conquers who.  On who has the veto power and who has the upper hand in influencing the other members of the family.  Sometimes, the situation can get wicked.  It'll reach a stage where, one will control the whole administration of the perimeter of the marriage to the extent that one will dictate what the other one can do and can have and can befriend at certain specified time and day and season.  Have you seen the movie "The Joy Luck Club"?  Its about four Chinese women who migrated to San Francisco after the 2nd World War.  A very sad story.  Its about survival.  Its about politics between man and woman.  Its about maneuvering strategy for being empowered and obtaining empowerment.  Its about how to love, learn to love and re-learn to love.  Its about life, of what is the essence of life and what is the good thing about life.  Its all about human beings interacting amongst each other and with each other, surrounding the politics at the home front.

So, whats the weather forecast on the politics of your marriage today? Scorching hot?

The Fine Weather

When times are good it will generally be followed by good weather. Good and fine weather will give life to many creations of God.  How can you tell when the weather is good.  Its when you wake up in the morning you hear birds chirping.  Its when you can smell the fresh air with the sun's ray shines clear and warm on the tree leaves and the fields.  Its not too hot or too wet.

The environment and the condition of the weather are main basic needs to us in order for us to function properly and harmoniously.  These are the elements in a healthy marriage too.  Without which our life with the other three quarter or other half, whichever you desire, will be ruined and distorted.  And down the stream, the effect will be impacted on the off-springs of the couple.

A bad weather will destroy crops and lives stocks.  So's too with marriage.  An unhealthy marriage life will destroy and stunted the healthy growth of the children in the marriage.

We all love  fine good weather. To have good weather following the seasons as has been the nature since time recorded, we must not do things that can destroy or contribute to the destruction of our land and water.  Live green.  Save our land.  Save planet earth.  Save our marriage.

Have a good day and a good marriage.

Why Me??

Yes, ladies. Why me will always be the BIG question when you are already in a marriage relationship.

Why my husband go for other woman? Why other man fall for me when I'm already belonged? Why there is no true love? Why my soul mate never appears?  Why it will always be me doing all the dirty chores in the house?  Why is it always me who don't have the time to chill out with favourite friends?  Why it is always him who got the freedom  to come and go as he pleases, making the home as his hotel for sleep and change? Why it is always me who is suffering in silence?  Why when bad things happen in the house it will always be when he is not around? Why. Why. Oh... why?

Unfortunately, you will have to find the answers yourself.  Its like self-help thingy, you know.  Like the many DIY shops around your area nowadays.  A Do-It-Yourself solution finding.  That is the price for living in this modern individualistic capitalist world.  And yet, there are many so-called feminist groups out there working themselves hard to achieve the so-called gender equality-- wonder what that means..